This is the rough start of a piece I needed to type out Saturday. It's written in the second person, though written from firsthand experience. I worked hard to keep the sex of the abuser and victim neutral for a reason. Abuse is an equal-opportunity power grab. Rules for Living with an Abusive Partner: 1) You are worthless. This will be established early on, as your partner will work very hard to show you how much more superior they are to you. They aim to prove to you that they are the expert, the final word, on every topic of importance. (That includes every topic. If you're tired, they are exhausted. If you're sick, they're suffering worse.) If there is a field in which you may be their equal, or even possibly superior, that field is useless, and you will be "strongly encouraged" to drop that portion of your life. One of those topics will be you, of course, and effort will be made to make sure you are aware of your lowly state, usually in the form of names that demean, berate